引用(TrueColorS @ 2006年3月2日の10:18 PM) [急な回復] 1855861 [/snapback]
私は私のbfを時々信頼すれば確実ではない。 彼は私に前に約何回かあった。 しかしそれは私達が一緒に公式にあった前にあった。 私が彼今、時々私をまだほとんどの場合信頼するがが疑いを持ちなさい。 それは彼は私にあるかもしれないことを私が考えるとべきであるより大きいそれが通常何かに回転であるので関係のために実際によくない。 私はどのように彼を疑うことを止めてもいいか。 私は彼を疑い続けたいと思わない私はそれを停止できない。 方法が実際に彼をテストするあるか。
信頼問題は扱うために非常に敏感である。 1間違った方に導かれたステップおよびそれは災害のための地雷である場合もある。
尋ねなさいあなた自身に… 私はどのような人であるか。 信頼を与えるそれらが信頼を壊さないことを望む人の種類であるか。 または得られるまで信頼しないべきタイプであるか。 質問から、後者であるように私に思えるには。
より重要な質問はどのような信頼人であるか…彼知っているあるか。 そして彼はそれを利用するか。 理想的な世界で私達は私達が私達の信頼に扱われてほしいので信頼を扱う。 しかしこれは理想的な世界ではない。 そしていつも間違えられる。 それはしきい値のレベルがであるもの決定する意志決定者まである。 次のパラグラフの多く。
うそは何であるか。 間違っている真実か単に「ない真実」;. If the lies he are telling are simply misguiding you and if its really no harm no foul.. then there really isn't a problem is there? On the other hand, if his lies are "HIDING" the truth, then it is up to you to decide whether you need to know what he's hiding and whether it affects your relationship or not. Remember, not all lies are necessarily bad. Just the intentions behind them.
If you were to look at you bf and describe his qualities and characteristics... would "not trustworthy" or "liar" be a part of that list? And more importantly, are you expecting him to lie? If you are then it is as much your fault than it is his. I am dealing with this issue with my gf, and my gf just assumes that everything that comes out of my mouth is negative and pessimistic when, in all honesty, its really not. So don't make the same mistake... my intentions weren't to put her down.. so maybe he's really not lying but you just perceive it that way. Many couples end their relationship because of this miscommunication.
Honesty. No.1 policy. How do we get there? Communication.. not just by him.. but attempted by you as well.
Take it or leave it... Tests are for SAT's and the DMV. Talk more Test less and you will inevitably score a 1600.
QUOTE(mofo @ Mar 2 2006, 10:53 PM) [snapback]1856238[/snapback]
love doctor, i have a question
when a girl u like tells u that she thinks of u as a mother...is that a good or bad sign for me?
I've heard of brother, cousin, uncle and even dad... but never a mother.
Although Freud suggests that men tend to find qualities in their mate much like their mother and vice versa with daughters and fathers, i've never really heard of qualities in men much like her mother. Confusing no?
Ask yourself, what was the context of what she was saying? Do you take care of her like her mother? Do you cook like her mother? Do you look like her mother? Do you nag like her mother? It's all in the context. What were you guys doing before and after she told you this? There are clues to everything.. piece them together and find out what she meant.
or simply just ask her what she meant.
Take it or leave it... Although, its somewhat creepy to think of your mother's qualities and characteristics in your future mate, It can't be all that bad... especially if your mom is a MILF.